If there is one thing that has been an ever present factor in my life over the past 6+ months, it has been learning the art of patience and the stress of anxiety. Patience is a dangerous thing......if you don't have it. Praying for patience will only lead to more stressful situations that test your patience and allow it to grow, or at least that's supposed to be the goal. Now, couple that with anxiety over what's to come possibly and you have one giant mega-test of patience coming your way. This test of sorts has caused my life in many ways to be one giant glass case of emotion (+10 points for guessing that movie).
If you had asked me a few months ago what the cause of more anxiety was and which one led me to "try" to be more patient - my unemployment situation or me applying to be in the Navy, I would probably say unemployment. However, seeing as how one started in January and the other in February, the time doesn't really make a difference. At this point though, survey says: NAVY. If anything being unemployed has taught me take on a different perspective in regards to my life; it has shown me exactly how much I missed out on by having tunnel vision, and only being concerned with what was directly in front of me and not with what was in front, behind, and just the awareness of my general surroundings. It's made me appreciate much more and to try and take each experience and learn something from it, no matter how bad or good it turns out to be. From that, my process of applying for a commission as a Naval Officer can be described as "Hurry up and wait." From the actual application, to security clearances, to the Seattle trip, and now waiting to hear if I will be invited to interview in Washington DC on June 16th, has been draining on me to say the least. However, I've actually enjoyed the entire process thus far, which is defininately a change for me. Other than my faith in God (which has also been relentlessly tested and knocked down and built back up over the past 6 months), applying to the Navy has been the one solid process in my life that has allowed me to forget about what's going on around me and focus on the future.
The difference now is that the same tunnel vision I once held isn't there anymore. I'm focusing on what's to come, but also am more cognizant of my surroundings and situations and their affect on me and the future. My dad said it best and this is probably the only time I've heard him swear, but he has always told me, "You can have all the "atta boys" in the world, but all it takes is one 'Oh Shit' to f*ck it all up." Anyways, using that knowledge and consistently moving forward in this application process has proven the resilience of self and has redefined passion. The patience and "the kid waiting to go to Disney World for the first time" anxiety, as I call it, has shown me exactly what I want out of life and what the differences are in doing something because you feel its the right thing to do, and doing or going after something because you TRULY want to do it. Passion and patience kind of go hand in hand almost. More than likely, unless you're a billionaire of some kind or just lucky, you will have to work, sweat, bleed, scratch, claw, and be prepared to work harder than ever for something that you are passionate about. However, just because you do all those things, doesn't mean whatever you're going after will be granted to you immediately by some fairy god-mother. No, if you want something bad enough, you're willing to do whatever it takes to get it (*ahem* legally), even if that means waiting to hear if you've been blessed to receive whatever you're going after.
For me, that's been the hardest part. Not the constant studying of 5+ years of my Michigan Engineering education, not the medical and physical evaluations, not the clearances. Just waiting. I'm kind of in a holding pattern and being in that situation kills me, but I know God has control over all things and that I have to let him have it and be in control and just trust that he will handle it. I can only do the things that will prepare me for what is about to come. So now less than a week out from possibility of my life changing completely, I'm telling you that patience and passion make you stronger. Anxiety will lead to the development and foundation of patience (you have to start somewhere), but passion will round out and refine your patience and ultimately trump anxiety.
So altogether, my situations and my faith have taught me to be anxious for nothing. Being anxious for nothing will build your patience and allow it to develop. Your buildup of patience will allow you to have the confidence to follow your passion. Following your passion will show you where your heart really is and it will complement the patience that was there in the beginning. This cycle will continue to repeat until the ends justify the means. I hope I used that right. Anyways, my patience is a daily work in progress, but I'm following my current passion, so that allows me to be confident in myself and that God is leading me down the right path. This will hit everyone differently, but in the end the lesson is the same. I will take the first part of something that we had to memorize as pledges. "Yesterday is gone forever, tomorrow is yet to be." Forget about what happened in the past. Only YOU have control of whether that will dictate your future. Follow your passion and don't let anxiety over the past or future deviate you from your path, because the one thing that will keep you going on that track, will be patience.
Until next time...
Darkness
P.S. - Don't EVER EVER pray for patience. Seriously.
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